Why Your #HotGirlSummer is So Necessary

Issa #HotGirlSummer, and I ain’t talking about the temperature! Megan Thee Stallion has the whole internet talking about having one. Even us guys are getting in on the action and claiming our own #HotBoySummer.

But what is it exactly? According to an interview Houston’s baddest did with The Root, #HotGirlSummer is “…about women and men being unapologetically them, just having a good-ass time, hyping up their friends, doing you”.

Sounds like a good time, right? I love anything that encourages you to be unapologetically you, unless your ass is toxic and you need to be apologetic, but let’s not go there right now. Instead, let’s assume you’re a light to the world. In that case, you need to be having a #HotGirlSummer, Fall, Winter, and Spring!

Here’s why having your #HotGirl or #HotBoy Summer is so necessary:

You put off your own needs for everyone else’s.

Women are notorious for this. Black women are notorious for this....

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Perfectionism Is a Trap

In yesterday’s episode of my podcast, Master Your Mission, I talked about how misplaced ambition can lead to depression. Here’s a link to that episode if you’d like to listen.

 One of the ways misplaced ambition can lead to depression is when it is tied to perfectionism. First, let me explain what perfectionism is.

Perfectionism, as defined by Google Dictionary, is the refusal to accept any standard short of perfection. 

That may not sound so bad at first, but when perfection becomes the standard, it gets dangerous to your success and to your mental health.

In thinking of perfection, some rather obvious, but hard to answer, questions come to mind. What exactly is perfection and how does one achieve it? Is it a certain number of likes on social media? Is it making a certain amount of money or having a specific number of children in life? 

Perfection is really subjective. What’s perfect to you may not be perfect to me. And unfortunately, most...

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Can Your Desire to Succeed Also Make You Depressed?

Spend enough time on Instagram these days and you’ll certainly feel like you’re doing life wrong. Watching the lives of influencers, who only post perfection, can make anyone question why they get up and go to work every day if life can really be as easy as those influencers make it look.

Even though most of us know that what gets posted on social media is likely far from reality, we still like to gawk and stare at it because we dream of having that life someday—a life of perfect angles and only the highest quality natural lighting. We all have high hopes for ourselves; everyone wants to make it.

Being ambitious, or having a strong desire to achieve something and the determination to do the work to get it, is a great quality to have. I guess we’re all ambitious to some degree, but obviously some of us are more ambitious than others.

Being laser focused on achieving a goal is what I talk about a lot here, so I think it’s only right to ask this question....

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5 Benefits of Having a Life Coach

I’m a Life Coach, and I’ll be the first to admit that most people aren’t real clear about what a Life Coach is. Most of my friends think of Iyanla Vanzant when they think of a Life Coach, and while she’s a great representation of Life Coaches, I usually have to explain that there are different types of Life Coaches out there.

According to Google Dictionary, a Life Coach is a person who counsels and encourages clients on matters having to do with careers or personal challenges. A Life Coach is professionally trained to help you maximize your potential in life or business and reach a desired outcome.

Life Coaches usually specialize in a certain niche. For instance, a divorced mother who wants to get back out into the dating pool might hire a Life Coach who specializes in helping women like her build up their confidence and date more. 

A Life Coach is different from a Therapist in that therapists usually help you resolve issues from your past in order to...

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Rewind: $86,400 Per Day

I originally wrote this article back in March, and today, it was on my mind. So I thought this would be the perfect opportunity to revisit this hypothetical and remind you to really think about how you’re spending your time in life.

Imagine this. Everyday, you wake up with the potential to have $86,400 deposited into your bank account at the end of the day. That’s one dollar for every second of the day.

Here’s the catch. Throughout the day, money is either subtracted or added to the deposit amount based on your actions. For every second you spend doing productive things that move you closer to creating the life you want, $1 is added to the deposit amount. For every second you spend taking no action to pursue creating the life you want, $1 is deducted from the deposit amount.

How much money would be deposited into your account at the end of every day?

Every second we spend in life either adds value or costs us something valuable.

Doing things like spending...

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Why Improving Yourself Improves Your Business

There’s no shortage of self-help information available to the public these days. From Life Coaches like me, to audio books, to podcasts like Master Your Mission, there’s something out there to help anybody improve any aspect of their life.

But does all this stuff really work? Can working with a Life Coach make you a better person? And does becoming a better person even help you in entrepreneurship?

The short answers are yes, yes and yes. How? Of course I’m going to tell you. Here are some of the ways that self improvement can help you as an entrepreneur.

Self improvement helps you take responsibility for your actions.

Taking responsibility for your actions helps you become a better entrepreneur because it makes you more of a go-getter. People who blame others for their circumstances in life tend to be procrastinators who never take action. Owning your shit is one of the first steps to shifting your mindset from the victim, whoa is me mentality to a take charge...

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What If Money Won't Make You Happy?


Have you ever wanted something so bad that you convinced yourself that you wouldn’t be happy or complete until you got that thing? You’ve probably experienced that. I know I have.

I remember buying my first car. It was a blue 1996 Mercury Sable. I laugh thinking about it now, but I remember how happy and proud I was when I bought it. 

Prior to that, I had been driving a 1984 Ford Escort Pony that started and ran when it felt up to it. That Escort—which is a horrible name for a car, by the way—had one of those seat belts that automatically choked you across the chest as soon as you closed the door. It was an ugly beige color and I had to keep a bottle of anti-freeze in the trunk just in case it ran hot.

I really wanted a new car. I was tired of driving that Ford and having it break down on me in the middle of busy streets. I even recall that car stopping on the freeway once and being really creeped out by this weird guy pulling up on me asking...

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You Are What You Believe

For years I wanted to lift weights and build a muscular physique, but it wasn’t until 2008—around the age of 30—that I tried. Since I was a kid I had been athletic, but I had also been skinny all my life. In 2008 I was still super skinny, and when I say super skinny, I mean Snoop Dogg in Baby Boy with that baggy wife beater on skinny.

In fact, I look back at pictures of myself around that time and I think I looked ridiculous because I was so freaking skinny. And I always thought that was just how I was built. I thought that I was just naturally skinny and there was really nothing I could do about it—it’s just who I was.

That year, 2008, I decided I would start lifting weights. It was my shot in the dark at finally getting bigger and having the muscular physique I always wanted. And to clarify, my sole purpose for working out at the time was to beef up and build muscle, not to go to the gym for my health (as crazy as that is). 

I began to research...

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Freddy Krueger Might Not Be Real, But Fear Is

Fear can be kind of like a bad horror movie. You know, the ones where the lady is running from the killer, through the woods, only to trip and fall, or she jumps into a car, fumbles with the keys and then the car won’t start.

In horror movies like that the characters struggle through the story for two whole hours, fighting off the killer at every turn. Some of the characters don’t make it, but there’s always that one or two who do.

By the end of the movie, they’re bruised and battered and most certainly, traumatized by what they’ve been through. Then they have that one last fight to the death with the killer, and it’s the most intense yet. 

They hit him over the head with a lamp, but he’s still coming for them. They stab him in the leg with a butcher knife, but he gets up and keeps coming. They push him over the third floor railing, and he may be weak now, but he’s still trying to kill them. Then they douse him with gasoline...

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Makeup Is to Your Face What Life is to Your Brain

Let’s talk about makeup for a second. Makeup is usually used to enhance a person’s looks. Even if you know nothing about makeup, you’ve probably seen enough of those trending beauty videos on social media, to know that some people are really great at highlighting certain features of their face and minimizing others—all with makeup. 

Whether it’s for vanity, special fx, or any other reason, wearing makeup changes the way a person’s face appears in its natural state. That change could be a very subtle change or it could be one that’s extremely drastic.

Now, I don’t know very much about makeup—in fact, sometimes I can’t even tell when someone is wearing it—but I’m pretty sure I know one thing. Women who wear makeup usually wash it off their faces at the end of the day. 

If they didn’t wash it off, and instead left it on, woke up the next day and added a new layer of makeup to what’s left...

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